Beginnings and Endings are Human Constructs
Memories go on and on in time and space.
When we put a stopper or an end to anything, we feel we have lost something, which gives us grief. After reading Bearing the Unbearable, a book by grief counselor Joanne Cacciatore, I realized that we place a lot of effort into our attachments to others and then forget to enjoy the wonder of their company and the experiences we share. After we lose someone to death, we miss them because we want them alive and by our side again, and that produces pain and suffering. We could instead wish them the best and look back at what a life well-lived they enjoyed with you included, and cherish the beautiful memories in your mind’s eye, or your poignant poetry or prose you might be able to write about them or your experiences with them, and how much they helped you learn and grow.
Throughout my life, I have gained and lost some close and immeasurably beautiful, valuable, and enjoyable friendships with many I have deeply loved and adored. If we think of ourselves as a vibration, it will make sense that we should surround ourselves with other vibrations that help us grow and help us succeed, that create music within us, and that give all of ourselves to all of our friends and family and love with a whole heart. That is something my mother taught me by example. Friends constantly come and go…
