In Touch with Your Well-Being and Emotional Health

How we can self-modulate and make ourselves better.

Aimée Sparrow
3 min readSep 20, 2022

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I spent many a night overwhelmed by emotions with no way to divert my negative, despairing, and dooming thoughts. Parts of my body would be in intense pain, starting from the fingers of both hands and down to my stomach. Darkness would come over me, and I would feel like there is no point to anything, and everything is infinitely more complicated than it is, especially the mere act of living from day to day.

Lately, I’ve given myself the chance to step back and rethink my thoughts and change my emotional reactions. I turn on a good rhythmic soundscape from my Calm app and then really focus on what I believe at the moment. Then, I challenge those beliefs using evidence I have from my memories.

I do not have exemplary skills, but I am working on them. I find that de-escalating our emotions has incredible benefits with our ability to interact effectively with people and spare us the anguish and stress that comes with misinterpretations, trauma processing, and irrational reactions.

As we give ourselves attention, care, and acknowledgment, we must give that to others we know. We cannot know what each of us is going through on our own beyond what we share with others. Listening to our anxieties and fears is one way to learn how to change or address the underlying cause, to overcome a challenge that could help us onward to better times.

What might work for us might not work for others, and our decisions are highly dependent on what we value and believe in if we give ourselves enough time to analyze and think about them. I was told not to overthink, but I believe we must overthink and then think some more to get to the bottom of why things are how they are so we can improve.

I spend long periods poring over books, reading slowly, and analyzing what I read to apply it to my daily life. My favorite books are about psychology and the human mind since my goal is to dissect how things work internally to figure out how to change the underlying system for my benefit and the benefit of others.

It is more than true that what we read in books, the theory, is only part of the process. We must act on these new ideas and use the knowledge we gather to make real change by challenging ourselves. We can be the best version of ourselves and even push our perceived boundaries to blossom. It only takes time, effort, and a whole lot of thinking.

Aimee Sparrow is an author, applied philosopher, and mathematician who has been living with a mood disorder for more than a decade and advocates for happiness and inner peace. She is the author of Lunacy. Follow her website for more details.

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Aimée Sparrow

An explorer of the philosophy behind psychology and what we dream to inspire peace and solace from suffering. aimee.sparrowling@gmail.com