Recognizing Good Fortune While Suffering
Moods change so that we forget how good we have it when we do.
My moods change so quickly that it’s difficult to keep track and sometimes I’m taken unawares. I need to develop strength, resiliency, and endurance to get through such dramatic changes and tides every day, otherwise, I will crumble under the pressure and the magnitude of my illness.
When depressed, I have an unrealistic idea of the current state of things and lose touch with the powers behind what makes my situation favorable and continues to be favorable. I consider worries, anxieties, and fears overwhelmingly more and then feel bodily weariness and inner frustration until I don’t feel as though I can persist any longer.
Due to this emotional turbulence, heightened feelings, and unbearable states of being, I often forget how good things are right now and how to best take hold of the possibilities and opportunities available to me. After all, if we want a change, we have to first be the change we want to make.
Right now, it’s perplexing to me how something so wonderful, miraculous, and incredible could go unseen by one for which clarity, truth, and wisdom toward what makes life worth living doesn’t align with mine. Of course, each of our circumstances could be different in major ways, and these common expectations may clash due to our unbalanced perspectives on each other’s priorities.
I am thankful for so much even though I am slightly dissatisfied and would at the same time want so much. It takes keen insight and vast patience to calm ourselves enough to point our efforts along the lines of what is essential and needs to be done. Firstly, we must realize how fortunate we are, and communicate how overwhelmingly and mutually beneficial a certain action would be.
It’s hard to realize that each of us sees the world in a unique way, and to coexist we must respect one another. We surely cannot know another person fully nor the life experiences they have gone through to get where they are today, so it’s unreasonable to judge them or blame them preemptively. It’s usually worth giving a person another chance unless they’ve chosen to make a grievous mistake.
Suffering only occurs if we are able to feel deeply, but only affects us if we struggle against it. If we let our pain and suffering flow over us and away, we can come out of it stronger, with new insights, and able to better handle hurdles thrown at us. This makes us better people and better friends.
Aimee Sparrow is an author, applied philosopher, and mathematician who has been living with a mood disorder for more than a decade and advocates for happiness and inner peace. She is the author of Lunacy. Follow her website for more details.