The Right and Wrong Way to Date Online

As an online community member since 2007, I know things.

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I am the kind of person who doesn’t tolerate abject and total failure. That’s why I set myself up for eventual success. Dating, as always, is a numbers game. I continued to use it to my advantage for years and learned so much along the way. In the meantime, I did continue to binge-read Medium articles about peer experiences.

The Wrong Way to Date Online

• Send uninspired messages out of ennui or boredom to someone you might like to meet and get to know one day.
• Keep on using online dating in frustration when it’s not working for you.
• Get caught up in the concept of soulmate and have a big turnover rate, not giving anybody a fair chance to get to know you or for you to get to know them. You need to take advantage of a key learning opportunity here, generally learning how to date, what you want, and how people are.
• Use a predefined checklist to reduce your dates to a list of metrics instead of real living human beings, and not be willing to deviate from that list.

The Right Way to Date Online

• Use your unique sense of humor and intellect to introduce yourself to people you…